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Based on Redefining our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships by Wedny-O-Matik

• Acknowledge your feeling of jealousy rather than trying to stifle or deny them.
• Consider this an opportunity to understand yourself better. Harsh (self-)criticisms or blame will not help to address discomfort or upset.
• Try opening up to a trusted friend for support and understanding, even before you talk with your partner or lover. Taking time to work through jealousy can help reduce negative reactions.
• Set aside quality time with yourself (alone), then with your partner or lover to share feelings.
• Describe what you need from your partner (what sparked your jealousy and why — what needs were not met) for reassurance, without resorting to blame or unreasonable ultimatums.
• Remember that you need to love and respect yourself.
• Keep a journal, check in with your self and your emotions and discover what you have learned from your jealousy. Don’t sweep this under the rug like it will never happen again. Learn from your insecurities and prepare to grow stronger from it next time around.
• Make amends. Always make up with hugs and sincere apologies. Be forgiving. Plan for growth and change.