This has been adapted from the Self-Evaluation in Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, by Traintan Taormino.You can download the original and other resources here.
What are your beliefs about monogamy?
If you are currently in a relationship:
Imagine your partner having sex with another person. It’s important to be truly honest, not censor yourself, and really let yourself feel what that would be like for you:
Imagine your partner in a relationship with another person. It’s important to be truly honest, not censor yourself, and really let yourself feel what that would be like for you:
How do you handle feelings?
How available are you?
*Please pardon previous hilarious typo. ;)
Observing — as a result of becoming more and better aware of the struggles of class, race and gender— a phenomena I absolutely can not help but see constantly recreated, I sat, somewhat impatiently, but intently listening as discussion of prison abolition became heated, boiled, and eventually threatened to spill out of the pot. The venue’s owner, noting this, and involved in the discussion, used some words that brought about applause, implicated “closing time”, and ultimately ceased discussion.
Question period started it off, wherein I had the chance to ask for elaboration: “Can you folks expand a bit more? At the beginning of the play, you referred to intersectionality of oppressions, speaking about abuse and neglect, and how those things exist beyond the context you intended to here present. What do you mean by that?”
Enormously, that is an understatement of what was actually covered, if you consider the discussion that followed, which went on longer than the performance itself. Even folks who strolled into the venue for an evening pint had something to contribute.
Discussions of race within the PIC, and more broadly, within a police state, didn’t only ‘come up’, but were strongly asserted into the dialogue by a PoC member of the audience who works with OCAP, and spoke of personal experiences with incarceration.
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Getcher bike lights out folks, we’ve got some shining to do!
If you ride a bike and have any reason to support SACHA Hamilton’s Take Back the Night, this event is for you!
One in three women will experience sexual violence in their lifetime. This means that we all probably know someone who is a survivor of gender violence and oppression. If not, we at least know someone supporting a survivor of gender violence or oppression.
This Event is Open to Bike-Riders of All Genders! Come Support Your Sisters who March at Take Back the Night!!!
WHEN & WHERE?
Meet the Womyn’s Bike Crew between 7:45 and 8:00pm, on Monday, September 12th, at the York Blvd. entrance to the Hamilton Public Library. Bring lights, glow sticks, reflectors, small flash lights, a sequin dress or disco balls — anything flashy!
Please also note, as with all WBC event, that we commit to creating spaces that promote equality for all and are free of oppression. We want everyone to be empowered!
After reading through some folks’ status updates, and doing some contemplation over a particular status update, plus considering the uproar other privileged white folks seem to be in over the riots in London, I kinda feel the need to come to terms with some shit. Not really *for* anyone —- this isn’t a confessional, and i’m not about to paint my words in a thick layer of guilt so that everyone can see how “hard I try”. These be the facts, may be you can relate:
1. I’m white and able-bodied and mid-twenties. I may be broke ass, but i come from a middle-class family who i could rely on if need be. “My struggle” (by which i mean the oppressions I’m most intimately connected and involved) is dealing with my abusive ex — File under sexism.
2. If I wear fancy shit and leave the house, I don’t have to worry about getting harassed by folks wondering “where’d you get that??”
3. Folks who do harass me generally are not the police.
4. When I mention how financially unstable I am, people don’t automatically assume it’s cuz I flunked outta high school.
5. I can walk down the damn sidewalk, and when shit’s in my way, i usually conveniently walk around it.
6. When someone makes a fucked-up comment to me or about me, I can call them on it — the chances of getting my ass kicked or being assaulted aren’t Very High (though it is not exactly unlikely).
7. Folks don’t
usually ever ask me where i’m from and then let me know how much they admire my ability to speak English.
8. I can go to a house show at a house whose front entrance has no ramp.
9. Spending stupid amounts of money on medication is not something I have to worry about.
10. Free counselling is something I can access, and have accessed.
These facts can all be pretty easy to take for granted. Oftentimes, I do take them for granted.
When I started finding and having actual appreciation for the subtle privileges I have, it really dawned on me how my struggles are probably things that a lot of other folks take for granted, too.
So I guess the reason I write this is to challenge you to actually, practically, appreciate the privileges you otherwise, on a daily basis, take for granted. Likely, you’ll find yourself much better able to empathise and understand the people who you want to be in alliance with.
Can Suck My 7-inch purple-swirl strap-on Dick.*
*Not a phrase I use lightly.
This was adapted from “10 Things Men Can do to Prevent Gender Violence”, produced by MVP Strategies, Copyright 1999, Jackson Katz.